Comments on: WHAT DOES MONEY MEAN TO YOU? http://www.agreenertea.com/what-does-money-mean-to-you/ ...on aging with strength and beauty Sat, 31 Jul 2010 01:18:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: FEAR, FAILURE, AND THE VOICE OF WISDOM : A Greener Tea http://www.agreenertea.com/what-does-money-mean-to-you/comment-page-1/#comment-360 FEAR, FAILURE, AND THE VOICE OF WISDOM : A Greener Tea Sat, 03 May 2008 12:18:14 +0000 http://www.empoweredattraction.com/what-does-money-mean-to-you/#comment-360 [...] above has been a guest post by Tracy Theemes. You’ve met Tracy before in the articles What Does Money Mean To You? and Do You Allow Someone Else To Control Your [...] [...] above has been a guest post by Tracy Theemes. You’ve met Tracy before in the articles What Does Money Mean To You? and Do You Allow Someone Else To Control Your [...]

]]> By: gina http://www.agreenertea.com/what-does-money-mean-to-you/comment-page-1/#comment-177 gina Sun, 10 Feb 2008 20:23:19 +0000 http://www.empoweredattraction.com/what-does-money-mean-to-you/#comment-177 Okay ladies I have comments.... My husband and I have completely different views of money. I am a candidate for Tracy's wisdom or, actually, being the person I am, I would venture to say at least my husband is :) I am not concerned with how my house looks, at least I do not think I am. For instance I have what I still think of as colonial student furnishings. I have been married almost 20 years and have two children. Purchased only 1 new bed (for my son when he outgrew his crib)and that consists, in my house, of a boxspring and mattress (who would ever bother with headboard and baseboard as they would simply be something to bang my hip on as I make it.) The rest are second hand from other relatives as well as the bedroom furnishings. Same goes for every other room in my house. Technology we have. Big screen TV, computers, stereos, iPods... but can I wangle a new fridge out of the man? nope! and I am ok with that. My objective, as far as money goes, has always been education and then retirement. If we are investing and saving it was to go to the children's education first since I knew full well that they would never be able to get a student loan based on the salary my husband received. Then we could save for retirement. Now therein lies the rub...I could never understand how we would deprive ourselves now of enjoying things so that we can be set when we are past 65. So we save now and go without to be able to scrimp and save our way through retirement because god knows we are no longer earning so we certainly can't spend then. The comment was even made that "I am enjoying this microwave popcorn now since we won't be able to afford it when I retire." So we are not taking trips and doing things now to be able to retire, sort of, maybe,well? I am not saying that I want for a lot. I have my gym membership and my dance class (these have not been taken from me yet although one was given as a Christmas gift to avoid having to buy me anything :) I have one child in university and the other is in grade 11. What I hear constantly is "We can't afford that, we have a daughter in university you know?" Nooooo? really? is what goes through my head....the child has practically paid her own way with scholarships and bursaries. Our education fund has a slight dent and that is what we had been saving for all along, isn't it? Perhaps it will never be enough saved in his mind...perhaps I am extravagant...god knows I do love shoes as does my daughter....genetics:) but I fear my husband and I will reach the impass sooner than later and I will be in my small one bedroom loft with a skylight in the bathroom and several cats. Life is grand as long as there are no worries about money. Problem is, in my situation, I can not foresee a time when that will happen. Perhaps that would be my wish ...for it not to be an issue. Okay ladies I have comments….
My husband and I have completely different views of money. I am a candidate for Tracy’s wisdom or, actually, being the person I am, I would venture to say at least my husband is :)

I am not concerned with how my house looks, at least I do not think I am. For instance I have what I still think of as colonial student furnishings. I have been married almost 20 years and have two children. Purchased only 1 new bed (for my son when he outgrew his crib)and that consists, in my house, of a boxspring and mattress (who would ever bother with headboard and baseboard as they would simply be something to bang my hip on as I make it.) The rest are second hand from other relatives as well as the bedroom furnishings. Same goes for every other room in my house. Technology we have. Big screen TV, computers, stereos, iPods… but can I wangle a new fridge out of the man? nope! and I am ok with that.
My objective, as far as money goes, has always been education and then retirement. If we are investing and saving it was to go to the children’s education first since I knew full well that they would never be able to get a student loan based on the salary my husband received.
Then we could save for retirement. Now therein lies the rub…I could never understand how we would deprive ourselves now of enjoying things so that we can be set when we are past 65. So we save now and go without to be able to scrimp and save our way through retirement because god knows we are no longer earning so we certainly can’t spend then. The comment was even made that “I am enjoying this microwave popcorn now since we won’t be able to afford it when I retire.” So we are not taking trips and doing things now to be able to retire, sort of, maybe,well?
I am not saying that I want for a lot. I have my gym membership and my dance class (these have not been taken from me yet although one was given as a Christmas gift to avoid having to buy me anything :)
I have one child in university and the other is in grade 11. What I hear constantly is “We can’t afford that, we have a daughter in university you know?” Nooooo? really? is what goes through my head….the child has practically paid her own way with scholarships and bursaries. Our education fund has a slight dent and that is what we had been saving for all along, isn’t it?

Perhaps it will never be enough saved in his mind…perhaps I am extravagant…god knows I do love shoes as does my daughter….genetics:) but I fear my husband and I will reach the impass sooner than later and I will be in my small one bedroom loft with a skylight in the bathroom and several cats.

Life is grand as long as there are no worries about money. Problem is, in my situation, I can not foresee a time when that will happen. Perhaps that would be my wish …for it not to be an issue.

]]> By: sonja http://www.agreenertea.com/what-does-money-mean-to-you/comment-page-1/#comment-176 sonja Sun, 10 Feb 2008 20:10:54 +0000 http://www.empoweredattraction.com/what-does-money-mean-to-you/#comment-176 I think security is a state of mind. I don't think it's about how much you earn. Security means that you know you can cope with whatever life throws at you. You have a plan B, and maybe a C and a D. Life turns on a dime. There are no real guarantees so it is more calming for me to have a back-up plan than to have a lot of money. That said, I would not turn my nose up at cash if it came my way. That is because I am not crazy. I think security is a state of mind. I don’t think it’s about how much you earn. Security means that you know you can cope with whatever life throws at you. You have a plan B, and maybe a C and a D. Life turns on a dime. There are no real guarantees so it is more calming for me to have a back-up plan than to have a lot of money. That said, I would not turn my nose up at cash if it came my way. That is because I am not crazy.

]]> By: Christine MS http://www.agreenertea.com/what-does-money-mean-to-you/comment-page-1/#comment-164 Christine MS Wed, 06 Feb 2008 10:57:51 +0000 http://www.empoweredattraction.com/what-does-money-mean-to-you/#comment-164 Hi, Holly, Thanks for your thoughtful and honest comment. Security and freedom are huge. The pressure to chase money all the time feels so restricting. It was interesting how you described your feelings about "feeling distracted by the incompleteness of your house". I think this is an area where men really have trouble understanding us. A woman I know told me just yesterday that she had used Feng Shui because "her home was not letting her connect to it" - that choice of words sticks with me. When we almost lost our house 2 years ago, I realized how much this physical space I live in, dumpy as it is, supports me. So there's some soul-searching to be done here. Do you see any association between the house feeling incomplete and feeling that your own spirit is at a crossroads, or feels incomplete? I'm just wondering if there's a deeper connection here - meaning, would your house ever be complete till your own journey feels more complete? Thanks for giving me so much good stuff to think about. C. Hi, Holly,
Thanks for your thoughtful and honest comment. Security and freedom are huge. The pressure to chase money all the time feels so restricting.
It was interesting how you described your feelings about “feeling distracted by the incompleteness of your house”. I think this is an area where men really have trouble understanding us. A woman I know told me just yesterday that she had used Feng Shui because “her home was not letting her connect to it” – that choice of words sticks with me.
When we almost lost our house 2 years ago, I realized how much this physical space I live in, dumpy as it is, supports me.
So there’s some soul-searching to be done here. Do you see any association between the house feeling incomplete and feeling that your own spirit is at a crossroads, or feels incomplete? I’m just wondering if there’s a deeper connection here – meaning, would your house ever be complete till your own journey feels more complete?
Thanks for giving me so much good stuff to think about.
C.

]]> By: Holly http://www.agreenertea.com/what-does-money-mean-to-you/comment-page-1/#comment-163 Holly Wed, 06 Feb 2008 02:43:47 +0000 http://www.empoweredattraction.com/what-does-money-mean-to-you/#comment-163 A timely article as my husband and I spent the weekend fighting about money. I get mad because I don't like how he talks to me about money. He acts as the guard of the vault, deciding who gets how much. I feel our fights about money are really about power and control. Of course he disagrees with me and says our fights are because I can't add and I over spend and that as long as we have debt (mortgage) have no business spending any money at all. We have to come to a conclusion about this as we have the same fight, about the same issue, at the same time of each year. But to the question - Why do I want money? I AM concerned about a nice house and a deck and I love to look at nice peices of art. Although my husband and I want for nothing, I find I am distracted by the incompleteness of my house. I want the money to finish the rooms/deck/garden, so that I can get on with other things. And then I feel very guilty for wanting, always wanting. But what I want the most is to know we are secure both for now and the future (and our children's education). Also money equates freedon to not work, to travel, to spend time together with loved ones, which is the ultimate goal. THanks for the topic Christine. A timely article as my husband and I spent the weekend fighting about money. I get mad because I don’t like how he talks to me about money. He acts as the guard of the vault, deciding who gets how much. I feel our fights about money are really about power and control. Of course he disagrees with me and says our fights are because I can’t add and I over spend and that as long as we have debt (mortgage) have no business spending any money at all.

We have to come to a conclusion about this as we have the same fight, about the same issue, at the same time of each year.

But to the question – Why do I want money? I AM concerned about a nice house and a deck and I love to look at nice peices of art. Although my husband and I want for nothing, I find I am distracted by the incompleteness of my house. I want the money to finish the rooms/deck/garden, so that I can get on with other things. And then I feel very guilty for wanting, always wanting.

But what I want the most is to know we are secure both for now and the future (and our children’s education). Also money equates freedon to not work, to travel, to spend time together with loved ones, which is the ultimate goal.

THanks for the topic Christine.

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