Comments on: Do You Keep Your Age Secret? http://www.agreenertea.com/do-you-keep-your-age-secret/ ...on aging with strength and beauty Tue, 09 Mar 2010 10:33:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Christine Scaman http://www.agreenertea.com/do-you-keep-your-age-secret/comment-page-1/#comment-695 Christine Scaman Sun, 12 Oct 2008 10:33:07 +0000 http://www.agreenertea.com/?p=825#comment-695 Kathryn, You've spoken some pertinent and undeniable truths. We are probably at our most employable between 35 and 45, when we still span a youthful appearance and some job experience. Your track record probably helps, especially if you're staying in the same field. I wonder if the profession/career choice makes a difference. I prefer my medical professionals to be 45-60. My hair stylist is a cool 60. This is probably because I relate to and trust that age group more, knowing the distractions and experience present in younger heads. But, since our age demographic must be among the most numerous, you'd think employers would want to have people on board that older clients identify with. I absolutely agree that anyone rejecting me for my age can bite me. My raw database of knowledge as a veterinarian is certainly not that of a vet 5 years out of school. I don't believe clients want a throbbing cranium. They want a very human being. That balance doesn't come along till much later in a career (or a life). Press on, Kathryn. That wouldn't have been a job you'd have wanted. You're just being saved for better things and they'll move into your life when it's time. Maybe you needed to have this experience so that you handle the next one in the right way. Carolyn, YES!!! Thank you for this!! It's hard for young people to look at us and get all that we are because they can't recognize it yet. It doesn't exist in them so their eyes are still blind to it. They see a big blank space. I'm so fascinated by studies of aging brains, especially in menopausal women. It is not a time of shrivelling up, it's a time of growth!! Under a microscope, in a very scientific sense, substances are being added, just as they were in puberty and other times of hormonal change, that make the brain work better. It just blows me away that this is happening... and the place in the brain that it takes place is in the emotional learning centers. Now isn't that fabulous? Kathryn,

You’ve spoken some pertinent and undeniable truths.

We are probably at our most employable between 35 and 45, when we still span a youthful appearance and some job experience. Your track record probably helps, especially if you’re staying in the same field.

I wonder if the profession/career choice makes a difference. I prefer my medical professionals to be 45-60. My hair stylist is a cool 60. This is probably because I relate to and trust that age group more, knowing the distractions and experience present in younger heads. But, since our age demographic must be among the most numerous, you’d think employers would want to have people on board that older clients identify with.

I absolutely agree that anyone rejecting me for my age can bite me. My raw database of knowledge as a veterinarian is certainly not that of a vet 5 years out of school. I don’t believe clients want a throbbing cranium. They want a very human being. That balance doesn’t come along till much later in a career (or a life).

Press on, Kathryn. That wouldn’t have been a job you’d have wanted. You’re just being saved for better things and they’ll move into your life when it’s time. Maybe you needed to have this experience so that you handle the next one in the right way.

Carolyn,

YES!!! Thank you for this!!

It’s hard for young people to look at us and get all that we are because they can’t recognize it yet. It doesn’t exist in them so their eyes are still blind to it. They see a big blank space.

I’m so fascinated by studies of aging brains, especially in menopausal women. It is not a time of shrivelling up, it’s a time of growth!! Under a microscope, in a very scientific sense, substances are being added, just as they were in puberty and other times of hormonal change, that make the brain work better. It just blows me away that this is happening… and the place in the brain that it takes place is in the emotional learning centers. Now isn’t that fabulous?

]]> By: Christine Scaman http://www.agreenertea.com/do-you-keep-your-age-secret/comment-page-1/#comment-691 Christine Scaman Wed, 08 Oct 2008 09:50:19 +0000 http://www.agreenertea.com/?p=825#comment-691 This happy and welcome comment, in an email, I am always amazed at women who refuse to tell their age! I just turned 69 and am happier than ever. I'm older and smarter than last year, and I'm alive and healthy. What really irks me is young men (usually salesmen or waiters) who think they are complimenting me by guessing that I must be about 45. I tell them that they must not assume that I am unhappy about my age, and that it's not flattering to be told I look younger. And, to stop and desist!!! Carolyn This happy and welcome comment, in an email,

I am always amazed at women who refuse to tell their age! I just turned 69 and am happier than ever. I’m older and smarter than last year, and I’m alive and healthy.

What really irks me is young men (usually salesmen or waiters) who think they are complimenting me by guessing that I must be about 45. I tell them that they must not assume that I am unhappy about my age, and that it’s not flattering to be told I look younger. And, to stop and desist!!!

Carolyn

]]> By: Kathryn http://www.agreenertea.com/do-you-keep-your-age-secret/comment-page-1/#comment-690 Kathryn Wed, 08 Oct 2008 00:09:03 +0000 http://www.agreenertea.com/?p=825#comment-690 Do I care that I just turned 49, not so much. But guess who does? Apparently employers do, as I attempt to move on in my work life, I ran across some "advice" on getting the call for the first interview. "Strip your resume of age-related dates" i.e. don't put the year you graduated from high school or college, just put the school, your major or your degree. Ditto for any continuing education or adult education, just list the course work. Don't put any employers over 10 years. Anything that may "give away your age" should be "tempered". I'm 49 years old, I have 8 years of service in the US Navy, college, 14 years of experience in my field, continuing education, and I have to worry that I'm too OLD to hire!? That was a kick in the stomach, was I really being passed over in the resume review process, not even getting the call because I'm 49!? But you know what, I don't want to work for anyone who would judge me like that, my resume speaks for itself and if my age is an issue, well, pardon my language, but they can bite me. Do I care that I just turned 49, not so much.
But guess who does? Apparently employers do, as I attempt to move on in my work life, I ran across some “advice” on getting the call for the first interview. “Strip your resume of age-related dates” i.e. don’t put the year you graduated from high school or college, just put the school, your major or your degree. Ditto for any continuing education or adult education, just list the course work. Don’t put any employers over 10 years. Anything that may “give away your age” should be “tempered”. I’m 49 years old, I have 8 years of service in the US Navy, college, 14 years of experience in my field, continuing education, and I have to worry that I’m too OLD to hire!? That was a kick in the stomach, was I really being passed over in the resume review process, not even getting the call because I’m 49!? But you know what, I don’t want to work for anyone who would judge me like that, my resume speaks for itself and if my age is an issue, well, pardon my language, but they can bite me.

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